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It’s Kind Of Like Being A Turtle

Last week I was in New York and got to meet some of the other bloggers who are participating in the Zyrtec Parks Unleashed promotion. We introduced ourselves and talked a bit about our blogs while we waited for our turn to interview the spokesperson of the campaign, Queen Latifah. (Come back on Friday for more on that!)

My ten-second elevator speech goes something like this: “My husband and I run a pet travel website and write a blog about our adventures as we criss-cross around the country in an RV with our two dogs, Ty and Buster.”

You can see the wheels spinning as this sound bite is processed and sooner or later I get THE QUESTION … What’s it like traveling in a small RV with your spouse – and your two dogs – all the time?
Honestly, I absolutely love it – it’s kind of like being a turtle. Your house is your car, and your car is your house. We have everything we need in the Winnebago. We’re self-contained. We’re nimble. We’re free.


I imagine, though, what people are really thinking when they ask THE QUESTION is more like: How do you all stand each other? What happens when you fight? Do you hide the knives – because there’s no where to run? So, if that’s what you were thinking, here are the answers:

It’s really pretty easy really. We’ve gotten accustomed to living in a much smaller space. We tend to move around one at a time so we’re not stepping on each other or the dogs. And, we spend a lot of time outside, because life in the Winnebago is easier when the dogs are tired.

We rarely argue. Though, this is something we’ve had to work on, because removing the routine from your life can make things harder.

A routine is like a short cut for discussing every minute detail of your daily activities. When there is no routine you can’t just assume that your partner will do the laundry because they always do. There are a lot more decisions to make – so many that it can be overwhelming. What should we do today? Where should we go next? What route should we take to get there? Should we eat out or make dinner? Where should we eat / what should we make?

We have two rules that help us with all this decision-making: First, no one is allowed to say “I don’t care.” It’s an unfair way to shift the responsibility to the other person, and it’s rarely true – we all care to some degree. The second is that when we state our preference, we rate how strongly we feel about it on a scale from 1 to 5. So, for example, if I say “I’d like to make chili for dinner and I’m a 2 on that” and Rod says, “I want pizza and I’m a 4,” we’re likely going for pizza, because Rod felt strongly and I was just north of indifferent.

And, to answer the last part of the question, the knives have only ever been removed from the drawer during the course of food preparation … so far.

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Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 9, 2011 at 1:18 pm
I highly recommend giving it a try - but I have to warn you ... it's addictive! =D
mybrownnewfies Oct 8, 2011 at 11:53 am
I really enjoyed reading your life living in an RV.  The "I don't care" rule is wonderful and one that I think I may adopt into our house! We have often thought about going RVing for a week or so with the kids and the dogs, but I certainly think we would need a big one for that and I wonder if I would need a vacation after our vacation!
Karen Friesecke Oct 7, 2011 at 10:17 pm
I like your decision making process! Whenever Sean & I travel, I let him make all the decisions because I "don't care", but then the longest that Sean & I have been on the road together is a month.  You two are obviously meant to be together. Being in an RV, with two dogs, for over a year is a true trial by fire for any relationship. Keep on truckin', guys :D
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 5:02 pm
It's funny, because eating out was one of the things we thought we'd enjoy most about traveling. We love to eat and have always enjoyed tasting new things, but your people are right! It gets really old in a hurry and now we only eat out occasionally and try to choose places that provide more of an "experience" than just something to fill our belly.
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 4:57 pm
Not at all Edie! You HAD to ask THE QUESTION - you wouldn't have been doing your job as a reporter if you hadn't! =)
Oct 6, 2011 at 3:33 pm
Hi Y'all, My Humans say from experience, an RV is much more comfortable with 2 dogs and 2 adults than a hotel room.  For one thing, eating out gets old in a hurry what you have to do it.   Y'all come by now, Hawk aka BrownDog
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 1:27 pm
Yes, Pamela - living on a boat would be much the same kind of thing. I'll tell you that the transition is the most exciting and most difficult part. Separating yourself from nearly all your worldly possessions, your friends and family, and all that's familiar to you is tough. Thank goodness that's countered by the excitement and freedom of embarking on a new adventure! Those first few months are the most exhilarating and gut-wrenching. And, navigating those changes is different for each person, so it takes some understanding and patience - combine that with a very small living space and it can get pretty intense. But it's so worth it. We've seen so much and grown so much - and we've done it together. It's the best thing we've ever done.
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 1:13 pm
Awe, thanks Mel! You're one of our favorite people, too! I'm sure there are lots of questions you could come up with - and you know me ... I'll tell it all! :-) LOL! I'm not so sure about marriage counseling, Remember, I failed at one marriage before I met Rod - so I'm only batting .500 at this. But, we do make a good team - with him, anything is possible.
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 1:04 pm
Funny - I wonder exactly the same thing when we pass people in RVs! There definitely is a period of adjustment to get used to doing this full-time, but it really is cool once you get over that hump.
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 1:00 pm
Thanks Michele! We closed on the house in January on the 11th anniversary of the day we met - so we're getting close to 12 years together and in May we'll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary. We're really lucky though - we still feel like newlyweds!
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 6, 2011 at 12:58 pm
Hi Kristine! Good question - most of the campgrounds we visit have very nice laundry rooms and the machines run on quarters just like a laundromat. It's not as convenient as having our own laundry in the RV - and some of the really big motor coaches do - but it works out fine. And, I'd love it if we'd be responsible for saving you from future arguments!
Maggie Oct 6, 2011 at 9:53 am
Great post, and it sounds like you guys have such a fluid routine to your non-routine! By the way, I think I'm going to have to borrow your rule re: "I don't care." That is a great tip!
Kristine Oct 6, 2011 at 9:52 am
Actually, this post brings up a question I never thought about before, how do you do laundry? Do you have the equipment in the RV or do you have to find a laundromat? I also really love the rule about not being allowed to say "I don't care." My practically husband and I could use some help in the decision making arena. I am going to suggest this to him. You may have saved us many future arguments!
Michele C. Hollow Oct 6, 2011 at 7:37 am
You guys are pawsome. You have some great marital advice. How long have you two been together? 
www.YourOldDog.com Oct 6, 2011 at 1:37 am
Hi Amy: I love this article and the reason why - we passed an RV the other day on the highway and I thought to myself "I wonder where they're going?  Are they just traveling around the country in their RV?  Did they just retire or have they been doing this for awhile?" I could see the dog in the window and I also thought "That looks like alot a fun.  They have their house, their car and their dog.  How cool is that?" Thanks for clarifying how you handle the small quarters and flaring temper issues! Janie
Melspetpals Oct 5, 2011 at 11:46 pm
I have to wait until tomorrow?????  Actually, like Pamela, I really loved this post. I actually was going to write a blog post featuring my favorite people and bloggers (you guys being two of them, well, four with Buster and Ty) and the questions I most wanted to ask them.  How funny that you should answer all my questions in one post! Now I'll have to come up with some new ones. :) What's really cool is how you and Rod have worked out some of the things I would have thought would be most problematic. (Maybe your third career could be in marriage counseling?) I love the idea of rating a preference. Really great idea. I also love your explanation of how not having a routine can create new problems. I had never thought of that before, but it makes perfect sense. I don't know that you could memorize all of this into one elevator speech, but what an awesome blog post!
Pamela Webster Oct 5, 2011 at 6:11 pm
I love this post. I'm going to recommend my husband read it since we're talking about living on a boat together. Believe me, it's quite the learning process. I really like the rating system. That's fabulous. I read another idea I really liked. A woman living on a sailboat with her husband has an "alone" cap. When she puts on her red baseball cap, she's sending the signal that she wants to be left alone. In right quarters out in the middle of the ocean, it's the best you can do.
Amy@GoPetFriendly Oct 5, 2011 at 3:49 pm
I love it, Julie! Rod and I worked together too before we started traveling. When one of Rod's friends found out I was going to leave my job and start working in the business Rod and been building he cautioned Rod that it might not be a good idea. This guy had apparently fired his wife after only 2 weeks of working together. LOL! We've never had any problems - for us going to separate places every day would stink!
Julie Melfi Oct 5, 2011 at 3:00 pm
You guys are my heroes! My husband and I both work from home and people always say, "Ew, I could never do that . .I need my space!" but we enjoy being together, so it works for us.  I like the no "I don't care" rule - I am terrible at that and usually it's because it's just not that important to me - I'm going to have to use your scale of 1 to 5 idea :)  Thanks!!